Do your research: Gather information about the diagnosis, various methods of PFD treatment and the types of treatment your insurance company covers.

Take an active role in your loved one’s medical care:  Accompany her to medical appointments and consider writing questions down in advance to eliminate pressure during her appointment due to time constraints.  Remind them to keep a list of all their prescription medications.  This list should be updated regularly and brought to all doctor’s visits.  Help them obtain operative reports from prior pelvic surgeries. 

Be patient: It may take a few meetings with your doctor before you feel comfortable talking about PFD. Remember that urogynecologists are used to talking with women about these issues and can help. 

Don’t accept the limitations: Many women who suffer from pelvic floor disorders are embarrassed, so they do not visit a doctor and they limit their activities to discourage leaking. Know that PFD is treatable, and encourage your loved one to seek help.

Learn how to provide proper physical care: Some treatment options may require you to take a more active role in your loved one’s care. If necessary, your urogynecologist and the nursing staff will train you to ensure you are providing great care.

Communicate: Assure your loved one that she will retain decision-making power and be a central part of all discussions and decisions regarding her health and health care.